A week ago, Wednesday, March 26th, was the first anniversary of the Jewish Theological Seminary’s decision to admit openly gay and lesbian rabbinical and cantorial students, following on the Committee on Jewish Law and Standards’ December 2006 vote. In celebration, the students of JTS’s Committee on Inclusion a fantastic program called “Hazak Hazak V’Nithazek: Celebrating Strength Through Inclusion.” The goals of the program were clear: “We believe “Hazak Hazak V’nithazek” will capture the excitement of marking a special anniversary, a time to reflect, study, and celebrate historic changes, as well as the urgency to begin the next chapter with renewed hope and vision to make the culture of JTS fully inclusive of Jews of all sexual orientations and gender identities.”
It was a celebration and a call to action.
The urgency to begin the next chapter carried through most of the program. Significantly, rather than rehashing old debates, the program tried to answer the question of next steps. It focused on changing the culture of the rabbinical and cantorial schools, developing an inclusive Jewish sexual ethic–Katherine Ott of the Religious Institute of Sexual Morality, Justice and Healing spoke about changing the terms of the discussion from “who is doing what with whom” to “creating sacred relationships,” which resonated very well with the crowd–and the challenges of actually creating an inclusive community, rather than just talking about it.
I was glad to see that the program focused on inclusion, rather than on tolerance. A tolerance model would mean no cultural change, no recognition of difference and of the unique contributions of every member of the community. Dr. Joel Kushner, Director, Institute for Judaism and Sexual Orientation, HUC-JIR, Los Angeles and Dr. David Shneer of the Center for Judaic Studies and the University of Denver, challenged a speaker who hoped for a day when “no one had to indentify as anything,” and reminded her how that kind of tolerance can serve to make people invisible. Kushner and Shneer had wonderful advice of the kind that needs to be heard in the Conservative Movement: that synagogues cannot just want to seem inclusive but actually have to take real steps—from having LGBT people in visible positions of leadership to thinking about how we discuss families in our classrooms—to really be inclusive.
The focus on inclusion did not ignore the fact that JTS itself has not become fully inclusive: bisexual and transgender Jews are still not admitted to the rabbinical and cantorial schools. The students of the Committee on Inclusion presented a 10 point platform called Darkhei Noam that called for an end to discrimination at against openly bisexual and transgender Jews, and was comprehensive in seeking to end discrimination against people of all sexual orientations and gender identities in placement, synagogue memberships, academic curricula. I thought it was telling that while the students and presenters used the language of “all sexual orientations and gender identities,” this was not present in the presentations either of Chancellor Eisen or the rabbinical and cantorial school deans. I often feel that the JTS administration is so focused on patting itself on the back for its own internal process that led to the policy change that it fails to see all that did not change.
I found many sacred moments during the course of the day, a day that I wasn’t sure I would ever see before I was ordained: hearing the word queer used in the sanctuary at JTS as a positive term; honoring the stories of Conservative rabbis and cantors who had been in closet while at JTS in the past; hearing Conservative rabbis discuss same-sex marriage and cheering for marriage equality; and seeing generations of student leaders who had led Keshet together in one room, dancing and singing.
And the cake and the rainbow confetti were fun, too.
Of course, it seems that nothing good the Movement does can happen without something negative, and the events in Israel at Machon Schechter on the 26th were disturbing. I don’t really have the words to describe how I feel about what happened there. The homophobia that has come out of Machon Schechter since the CJLS decision is inexcusable. Jewschool has reported more fully. I am waiting to see how the JTS deans respond.
I am incredibly proud of the students, gay and straight, who by their actions are ensuring that JTS cannot rest on its laurels and assume that the conversation about LGBT ordination ended on March 26, 2007. JTS’s strength has always been the passion of its students. These students keep reminding us that this fight in the Conservative Movement has always been about real people and how we value them in our communities. As I prepare to be ordained in 7 weeks, I know I have left the fight at JTS in good hands, because there is so much more to be done.
Hazak Hazal V’nithazek.
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Amit
April 2nd, 2008 at 12:44 pm
I beg to differ. I think JTS made its final step and should now get on with its life, which is to train Rabbis and scholars, not to waste time on who is doing what with whom.
Cole Krawitz
April 2nd, 2008 at 7:55 pm
It’s a nice vision Amit, to live in a world where ultimately this will no longer matter, but we’re not there just yet.
andy
April 3rd, 2008 at 9:46 am
Thank you for sharing this.
Please note my response at http://www.jewishmosaic.org/page/news
Gregg
April 3rd, 2008 at 10:24 am
Amit and Cole - I have to say I strongly disagree. As Rachel points out, “a day when ‘no one had to identify as anything’ … can serve to make people invisible.” I don’t see a world that erases sexual and gender diversity as a “nice vision.” We all live our sexual and gender identities differently. For some of us, those aspects of who we are remain core to our sense of self and our self-presentation to others. For some of us, sexual and/or gender identity plays a much smaller role. I honor diversity of experience in relation to sexual/gender identity. But for me, that means celebrating and pro-actively affirming this diversity.
Cole Krawitz
April 3rd, 2008 at 1:55 pm
ahh darn. i hate it when my sarcasm isn’t clear online. lol.
i was attempting to be witty.
gregg, i think you know all too well that i live every damn day of my life where people have no choice but to know very well my difference. there are times where these conversations require some sarcastic distancing to deal with what often are people’s ignorant and defensive stances to difference. and as someone who smacks against that defensiveness everyday, you know what, sometimes i really wouldn’t mind it not being the focus. this is not a new feeling or concept–it’s one that i hear many people share, the idea that, yes you must always see me for the differences that i bring, and you must also not. that tension is always there. and i will celebrate that as much as i will celebrate that what you call a diversity of experience. it’s not an either/or in my book. it’s a both/and.
Gregg
April 3rd, 2008 at 2:11 pm
Cole - thanks for the clarification. I thought you were probably either being polite or sarcastic (A sometimes fine line between those two, no? Context is everything!), but since I wasn’t 100% sure, I figured I’d put something out there taking us back to one of the core points that Rachel made, and also one of the core points of this whole debate. And yes, I very much hear you on that balance of calling out difference and trying to not feel like it remains a barrier between people or a focal point for everything. As you can probably imagine, this very point comes up over and over and over again in the work I do in the Jewish community.
Joel L. Kushner
April 4th, 2008 at 12:39 pm
I was honored to be asked as a speaker on a panel for the day of celebration. Being there, I watched with both pride at the strides the Conservative Movement has taken and pain at the struggles they are still experiencing. Kudos must go to all members of the Committee on Inclusion, led by Aaron Weininger that created such a powerful event and to the amazing support and dedication of faculty advisor Rabbi Mychal Springer.
I was saddened though by what I saw as some watering down of the celebration in the language that people used and what they discussed. I heard that the Committee on Inclusion was told - don’t make it all about gay and lesbian, be open to everyone. What did it say that the opening panel by JTS administration started almost 30 minutes late? I heard about other JTS students who were very unhappy that there was a whole day of celebration when they had not agreed to the decision and they felt their voices were being shut out and not heard.
I want to lift up the words of Rabbi Ayelet Cohen who led a panel (and I paraphrase her words)that the 100+ year history of exclusion and silencing of gays and lesbians at JTS does not equate with some students who disagreed with this day of celebration who still have free voice to share their opposing views. This should be a full and rightful day of celebration and the beginning of a much longer process of dialogue, engagement and growth.
Developmentally, we know about the coming out process and JTS is just at the beginning of such a process. The session on coming out experiences of JTS rabbis who went through school closeted and now came back to tell their stories was one of the most powerful of the day and brought tears to many in the audience and hopefully healing as well. The Administration which has made strides and has faltered are like newly aware parents, some who are still striggling and others who are trying to catch up as fast as they can and maintain a family that is adjusting to something new which by its very nature will ultimately change the structure of that family.
Truth be told, even after 20 years of gay and lesbian inclusion resolutions (only 5 years for bi and trans inclusion), the Reform Movement still struggles with these issues. The coming out process in all its manifestations is by its nature an uncomfortable and often painful process, even though there are those increasingly lucky folk who have the support they need. The good news for the Conservative Movement is that the door is finally open and there are many across Jewish denominations that are willing to offer support and help wherever they can.
It was an honor to be present at such an historic event. Hazak Hazak V’nithazak.
Cole Krawitz
April 4th, 2008 at 4:57 pm
Couldn’t agree more Gregg. And I’m excited to see in this last week Jewish Mosaic taking a more vocal/public role in pushing Jewish communities and organizations.
Actually, you remind me of a comment I wrote a year ago on Jewschool when the decision first “came down”:
“I’m sorry but this is exactly why I still argue, and many of us still argue, that this is one step, but not a victory, and not a full acknowledgment of our lives, our full lives, as sexual beings–and while some in community may not engage in anal sex, many do, and this is about community, this is about changing lives for all, or at least that’s how I view the work of tikkun olam–reform is reform for a reason. Because more often than not, it still says we’re going to leave others out, we’re going to leave those people behind. Well, then our work is to still move that forward.”
And sadly, I am not surprised to find even just a year later people saying, enough already. Haven’t we already talked about this enough! Aren’t we done? In fact, I spoke with a rabbinical student the other day who said, and I’m paraphrasing: they’re all trying so hard that I can’t even say anything about being gay, as if to say because I’m now allowed in, there’s nothing more to talk about.
So, what I meant by saying I don’t *always* want to talk about my identity is that I don’t only ever want to be asked to speak on LGBT panels in Jewish conferences and Jewish leadership programs, and Jewish____. What I’m saying is I will bring that into any and all panels, any workshop, any class I teach, any piece I write. That to section me off in that way does so little good, and to attempt to squelch that in almost all the other areas of my life does little good. That I bring who I am into all of the work I’ve done, including much of the work I’ve done outside of Jewish organizations, because it informs all of who I am as much as the fact that I’m a transplanted east coaster living in the Bay Area (and yes, wow, there are a lot of differences).
So yes, five years from now, who knows what our JTS anniversary remembrance will look like, but I have no doubt it will continue to expand and enrich all of our lives.