Comments on: Why, as a wife, I still want to see other men http://jvoices.com/2008/12/14/why-as-a-wife-i-still-want-to-see-other-men/ Tue, 23 Feb 2010 21:26:27 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: rickismom http://jvoices.com/2008/12/14/why-as-a-wife-i-still-want-to-see-other-men/comment-page-1/#comment-72871 rickismom Mon, 22 Dec 2008 09:41:26 +0000 http://jvoices.com/?p=1949#comment-72871 Who says you have to give up on good conversation.?? Get some better female friends Who says you have to give up on good conversation.?? Get some better female friends

]]> By: Aliza Hausman http://jvoices.com/2008/12/14/why-as-a-wife-i-still-want-to-see-other-men/comment-page-1/#comment-69844 Aliza Hausman Mon, 15 Dec 2008 23:21:28 +0000 http://jvoices.com/?p=1949#comment-69844 I am glad that my story is resonating with people! I am glad that my story is resonating with people!

]]> By: Malka Esther http://jvoices.com/2008/12/14/why-as-a-wife-i-still-want-to-see-other-men/comment-page-1/#comment-69839 Malka Esther Mon, 15 Dec 2008 22:32:10 +0000 http://jvoices.com/?p=1949#comment-69839 Larry would be talking about me. I have often been amazed at how it is expected that my entire life pre-conversion/pre-marriage is just gone/wiped out/never to be discussed... Unless someone wants a detailed account of my conversion story.ify I've maintained friendships with 1 guy from my pre-conversion life that is not a family member. I have a number of "guy friends" on the net and one that I regularly talk to on the phone as we co-moderate a fairly busy conversion yahoo group together. In high school most of my friends were guys. I went to an all women's college for a year and then went to night school so I stopped having many male friends. In the workplace though I usually hung around with the guy engineers and had little to do with the other women I worked with. I am so glad I married a guy that is not typical for the o community and his attitude towards things. Larry would be talking about me. I have often been amazed at how it is expected that my entire life pre-conversion/pre-marriage is just gone/wiped out/never to be discussed… Unless someone wants a detailed account of my conversion story.ify

I’ve maintained friendships with 1 guy from my pre-conversion life that is not a family member. I have a number of “guy friends” on the net and one that I regularly talk to on the phone as we co-moderate a fairly busy conversion yahoo group together. In high school most of my friends were guys. I went to an all women’s college for a year and then went to night school so I stopped having many male friends. In the workplace though I usually hung around with the guy engineers and had little to do with the other women I worked with.

I am so glad I married a guy that is not typical for the o community and his attitude towards things.

]]> By: Larry Lennhoff http://jvoices.com/2008/12/14/why-as-a-wife-i-still-want-to-see-other-men/comment-page-1/#comment-69810 Larry Lennhoff Mon, 15 Dec 2008 17:44:22 +0000 http://jvoices.com/?p=1949#comment-69810 Same thing with the genders reversed. Fortunately my wife supports me in keeping up my relationship with long time female friends. When a local rebbitzin asked my wife if she wasn't worried about me having inappropriate relationships she replied "He was friends with them for over 20 years before he met me. If he didn't have inappropriate relationships then, why would he start now?" In another case, my wife was rebuked in private by our hostess after she had talked about old boyfriends at the shabbos table. Apparently once you are married old boyfriends are supposed to disappear like beardless rabbis from an Artscroll biography. Same thing with the genders reversed. Fortunately my wife supports me in keeping up my relationship with long time female friends. When a local rebbitzin asked my wife if she wasn’t worried about me having inappropriate relationships she replied “He was friends with them for over 20 years before he met me. If he didn’t have inappropriate relationships then, why would he start now?”

In another case, my wife was rebuked in private by our hostess after she had talked about old boyfriends at the shabbos table. Apparently once you are married old boyfriends are supposed to disappear like beardless rabbis from an Artscroll biography.

]]> By: triLcat http://jvoices.com/2008/12/14/why-as-a-wife-i-still-want-to-see-other-men/comment-page-1/#comment-69685 triLcat Sun, 14 Dec 2008 22:36:30 +0000 http://jvoices.com/?p=1949#comment-69685 I know the feeling. Basically, I've made an agreement with my husband that he knows who I talk to, and my closest two male friends are pretty much exclusively chat buddies. Both of them are married and basically we only get together if there are kids or spouses around. It's not the same as it was when I was single and a lot of my buddies were male, but I do maintain some kind of dialog with male friends, even if it's basically restricted to chat or when we're together as couples. I know the feeling. Basically, I’ve made an agreement with my husband that he knows who I talk to, and my closest two male friends are pretty much exclusively chat buddies.

Both of them are married and basically we only get together if there are kids or spouses around.

It’s not the same as it was when I was single and a lot of my buddies were male, but I do maintain some kind of dialog with male friends, even if it’s basically restricted to chat or when we’re together as couples.

]]> By: Jack http://jvoices.com/2008/12/14/why-as-a-wife-i-still-want-to-see-other-men/comment-page-1/#comment-69656 Jack Sun, 14 Dec 2008 17:33:49 +0000 http://jvoices.com/?p=1949#comment-69656 This post was included in the latest edition of Haveil Havalim, the Best of the Jewish Israeli blogosphere blog roundup. This post was included in the latest edition of Haveil Havalim, the Best of the Jewish Israeli blogosphere blog roundup.

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